Dear Two Views,

I am getting married in a little over a year and have an invitation etiquette question. The reason my fiance and I have decided to have a large wedding is to share our special day with all the people who have touched our lives. My parents are paying for everything as our wedding gift. What is the problem you ask? Well, lately I have been hearing that a lot of people think that a big wedding is for families to show off and greedy couples to gain gifts and money. I realize that it traditionally is rude to mention gifts in a wedding invitation, but we feel it may be appropriate to add "Gifts are not necessary." What do you think about this? Is there another, better way for us to tell our guests that we want them to come and enjoy themselves while we all celebrate? If we do add that gifts are not necessary, where would be the best part? (We are including response cards) We will not have a money dance, money tree, or wishing well.

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