|
|
I am a 25 yr. old who is madly in love with a 22 yr. old. I first avoided a relationship with him because he was too young but I could not resist his charm! We have been together about 2 yrs, and he is a great boyfriend. He is also a great father of twins that he had with his previous girlfriend, and I know he would make a terrific husband. My problem is that he wants to get married at around age 28, which is obviously a whopping 6 yrs. from now! Unfortunately, I'm ready for marriage and children now. I could put it off for about three years, but in 6 years I will be an old maid. I am currentlly very disheartened because I feel it will drive me crazy to wait that long! I definitelly don't feel it's right to pressure him, especially since he is still young. What can I do to make myself feel better?
OLD MAID
"X"
You could start making yourself feel better by ditching the notion that 31 is an "Old Maid". That's ridiculous and very out-of-date!
Charming he might be, but fathering twins out-of-wedlock before age 20 doesn't indicate good husband material to me. At least, to his credit, he seems mature enough to know that he is too immature for marriage.
It seems to me you need to move along to another relationship if your biological clock is ticking so loudly that you can't accept your boyfriend's expressed lack of interest in hearing wedding bells.
"Boomer"
Well, you could tell yourself things like "He's young now, but he'll change his mind in a couple of years," or "I'm still young and a few years might do this relationship some good." I don't know. You'll have to decide whether or not he's worth waiting for, but I would suggest first deciding whether you are ready for a marriage to him or if you just are feeling the itch to move on to the next "something" in your life - Big Difference.