Dear Two Views,

I am a 26 year old manager of a small business owned by my mother. I have been employed there for nearly 2 years, none of which has been easy. I am the type of person who goes above and beyond what is required and strive to do everything the best it can possibly be done. I handle all aspects of inventory control, my mother knows very little of what is involved. Here recently, things have really got out of hand. I am really bothered by the fact that no appreciation is given for anything I do. I do my job, and do it well with no appreciation from her. I have been trying to get her to give me some fringe benefits that she insists she just cannot do. I am looking at leaving this job in several months. My mother has since confronted a fellow employee about taking my job when I leave. She has promised her a higher wage as well as a few of the fringe benefits I have been trying to achieve. She also tells her that she will not be required to do all the things that I do, that those are not all my job. If those are not all my job, and I do them, why then will my successor not be required to do them and still earn a higher wage?

My mother and I and this other person work together nearly every day. My mother doesn't even speak to me any more. At most, we say "hi", "bye", I'm going to lunch". I can't take this any more! I feel I can do nothing right. I am criticized for the slightest mistake, but ignored when it comes to all the things I do that she says are "not my job". I will be leaving if I am granted a contract for a similar business in another town. I will not know until Mid-May if my request is approved. I have planned to work in my mother's business until mid June when my business will open (if approved). I come home every day angry and aggravated and feel I am taking this frustration out on my husband. Please help me! I don't know how much more of this I can take. This is all damaging my self-esteem.

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