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I have a friend that I've known since childhood and while I don't want to have a romantic relationship with her, I am in love with her. She knows how I feel and she says it makes her feel uncomfortable because we are such close friends. Although she won't admit it, she has feelings for me too but she has a boyfriend. I try to explain to her that I don't want anything more than what we have already but she never believes me. I'm very deeply in love with her but not sexually so I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize her relationship with her boyfriend. I think that she is uncomfortable with my feelings because she doesn't trust her own feelings and is afraid that something might happen between us. This situation is putting distance between us and we need to talk about it but she is reluctant to talk about what she is thinking. How do I get her to talk to me? I really want us to resolve this.
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From what you have written, I think that your friend is trying to let you down easy. She apparently doesn't share the same depth of feeling for you that you do for her and you are making her uncomfortable with your insistent projections of that feeling. It borders on arrogance to say that you know she has feelings for you when she says she doesn't!
Keep up the pressure to "talk it out and resolve the issue" and you might end up without her friendship entirely!
I'm not sure I understand the problem. Any close friends express and feel
love towards one another - it doesn't have to be overwhelming or
smothering. It sounds like, though you say you want nothing from your
friend, that she might be backing off in fear of suffocation. I'm mean
really, what's there to talk about? You're close friends, you share a
love of your friendship... why are you so hung up on this deep and
wrenching obsession? If you enjoy your close friendship with this girl,
then enjoy it - the love will always be there - if you want something
more, be honest and quit passing the problem off on her.