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I have a merged family and all the kids are out except my 18 and 14 year old stepdaughters. The 18 isn't a problem since she works nights. My wife has been out of town a lot lately because her father is terminally ill. The 14 year old, Katie started parading around in less and less clothes, finally nude. She is pretty and very built and one evening as she walked past, I stopped her and deep kissed her. She seemed surprised but was very responsive. We wound up in bed together. I have been *ing her for a couple weeks, even though I know it's wrong. Her mom will be back soon. I HAVE to end it with Katie., Need advice and help.
It's horrible enough that you've done what you have - taking advantage of a child - but you'd be an absolute monster if you forced that child to go through the rest of her life with that secret to haunt her. If you can't be man enough to tell your family the truth, don't you dare stop Katie from searching for help on her own.
Get help now before you make it worse for everyone!
"X"
I grant that you certainly do need help! But, you don't HAVE a mess...you CREATED a mess! And to clean it up is not going to be very easy either.
You can start by taking responsibility for your actions. Don't whine about how your step-daughter seduced you. She's 14, you're supposed to be an adult. Even if she HAD initiated sexual contact (and from your letter, it doesn't appear that she did), your presumed maturity should have been able to handle it. For goodness sakes, Katie is still a child, particularly in the eyes of the law! (Can you say "sexual child abuse" and "statutory rape"?)
I suggest that you get family counseling for you, your wife and Katie, real quick. That is, if you still have a family when your wife returns!
"Boomer"
The only way for you to get out of your "mess" is to come clean. Obviously both you and Katie have some problems that need to be worked out immediately and the sooner you talk to your wife about what's been happening the sooner you and Katie can get help.