my boyfriend works the nite shift and hes always tired when i ask him to do anything with me but hes never to tired to do things with his friends i just dont understand that i dont bother him about hangin out with his friends because i know hes not doing anything wrong and everyone needs to be with there friends ya know but i just don t feel loved sometimes ifeel like he prefers to hang with the guys opposed to having a romantic weekend or romantic anything with me its really making me bored with him and i dont want to break up with him over this but im not happy

I swear this is the most common complaint among my girlfriends. Unfortunately, we can complain until we're ninety but the boys aren't going to change. Not completely anyway. There has to be compromise - by both of you. Even more so than that I think, there has to be a time when you decide which "fights" are the ones worth fighting. You say there's nothing wrong with him going out with his friends, so really your focus is on just having a couple nights to yourself (once you get a few nights alone, then work on whole weekends). So, when you approach the subject leave his friends out of it! Don't give him the the whiny "you like them more than me" thing - it doesn't work. Rather speak strictly to the point that you want him to yourself for a night, and be specific why - dinner, dancing, a game... preferably something he enjoys. You can also always gain extra points for being a good sport and going out with the boys - designated driver earns the next night out. It's frustrating, I know, but if you really want it to work, you'll figure it out

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If he isn't spending any time with you and seems to prefer "hanging out with the guys", well I can't see why you consider him your boyfriend!

I can certainly see why you'd be bored with him! It takes time and work to maintain a relationship and it doesn't sound like he's making much of an effort.

Dump him and find someone who appreciates you and wants to be with you because if you are bored and he is hanging out with the guys while you are dating - well then, look out should you ever get married!

"Boomer"