About two weeks ago, my best friend and I went to the pool. We were having a lot of fun, but then she started to act really mean. She started to yell at me whenever I said something in a normal conversation, we weren't arguing but it seemed like she was trying to start an arguement or hurt my feelings. Then she prank phone called my dad from a pay phone at the pool. And she didn't tell me that she did until he came to pick me up, so I was chasing my dad's car. It seemed like she wanted me to leave. She used to call me every day and we would talk for hours. But now she hasn't called me since the day at the pool. I can't think of anything that I did to make her mad. I'm a very nice person, and we are both very compatible, we only got in one other fight. I was her only friend because she's very heavy and I'm the only person who likes her for what's inside. Now I really miss her and I want to be friends again but I'm afraid that if I call her she'll just hang up. My parents say she doesn't deserve to be my friend, but I really want to be her friend. What should I do? Why do you think she got so mad at me?

Your friend's sudden mood swing could be the result of many causes, unfortunately she's the only one who can explain the real cause. The indication that your friend may have a low self esteem because of her weight leads me to think perhaps she felt a sudden resentment or bitterness towards you for your physical appearance - she may think you look better in a swimsuit... I don't know.

If you want your friend back, tell her so. She may talk when she's ready and really need you to be there, or she may be feeling embarrassed about the whole thing and need you to forget about how she behaved.

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Have you tried to call her? Doesn't sound like it from your note. Why not? If you didn't "do anything" to make her angry, maybe she was just having a bad day and behaved poorly by taking it out on you! Give her a chance to explain.

If she won't talk to you and if you really can't think of anything that you did to make your friend angry, well then, let it go and accept that she might have other problems that have nothing to do with you. Find other friends. Good luck!

"Boomer"