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I'm a 22 year old male. My best friend, who is also 22, and a male, has a sister, that is 14. I think, she has a crush on me. My best friend has told me things she has said, and so has her cousin. I think the world of her, I had a younger sister to pass away a few years ago. She's my adopted little sister i guess you could say. I take her(Missy) and her brother(Jack), who is 15 out all the time. Their parents don't do anything for them, their living conditions are horrible, I feel sorry for Missy and Jack. I take them out when I can, because I'm financialy able to, I have never thought of anything more than friendship of Missy. How do I tell her what I need to tell her with out hurting her. I still want to hang out with her. What's your advice?
Joey91
With most 14 year old girls, a crush on an older boy is certainly exciting, but usually the separation of social circles allows their attention to be diverted to their own peer group when it comes to realistic "dating".
"X"
I don't think that you need to tell Missy anything! I'd bet both her brother and her cousin have already told her they informed you of her "crush."
Just continue to be a friend to BOTH Missy and her brother Jack. Sounds like they could sure use a friend. BUT, DON'T, I repeat, DON'T get yourself in a situation where you and Missy are alone. That could be sticky and cause you more trouble than you need!
"Boomer"
I admire your maturity and your caring nature. Probably the best thing would be to keep some distance for a time - manybe visit only a couple times a week.