Well, me and my ex were best friends, but now we never talk. Recently, I found out that he has thought about getting back together with me, but isn't sure. I made an effort to let him know I was interested in being back together with him, but he is very unresponsive (so far anyway). What is going through his mind? Does he know what he wants, or is he just stringing me along???

Cheers,
Cheerio :-)

Who knows?

Your only options would be to ask him, wait for him anxiously, or go about your life and leave him to his own. My advice would be to avoid dwelling on whatever it is your ex-boyfriend is doing and concentrate on your own activities.

Certainly don't ever let him know you are waiting by the phone for his next move - how pathetic and definitely unchallenging. Go out! Enjoy yourself - if he's interested, you'll know for sure when he's left messages on your answering machine!

"X"

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I can't tell you what is going on in your "ex's" head, but, it doesn't sound like he is doing much "stringing you along" if he hasn't responded to your positive overtures!

Some more relevant questions for you to ask yourself are... Why did you break up in the first place? Has that obstacle been resolved or would another break-up probably be forthcoming? How reliable was your "source" of information? How did you let him know you were interested? Were you (or your go-between) clear enough about your interest?

If you and your "ex" were best friends, why aren't you speaking? If you can not communicate openly, without going through third-party intermediaries, you will not be able to have a lasting relationship.

You acted on second-handed information which may or may not have been correct. The ball is now in his court and he may not want to play. Take a "time-out" and wait for the next round!

"Boomer"