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I recently meet a guy who was cute, funny, and normal. He told me he is separated from his wife for the past three years and their three kids live with him. He is everything I've always wanted in a man and we seemed so compatable in every way. I've always scoffed at "love at first sight" stories but this has hit me like a ton of bricks. I can't forget about him and my instincts tell me he is an honest and good hard working man. My problem is that he has not called me. It has been about 3 weeks since we met and I'm afraid he won't call because he may think I wouldn't want to get involved with a man with so much baggage. I wanted to call him but his number is unlisted. Then I managed to find out his number but I don't know if I should use it. I really believe in my heart this man is very special and could change my life forever but my head says I'm acting like a lovesick teenager and I should stop obsessing over him. Please help me decide what to do. Why do you think he never called? P.S. In case you're wondering, we did not sleep together so it's not like this was a case of a good time one-nighter. Please answer soon and please don't publish my name or e-mail address. thanks.
If he still hasn't called, I would probably have to say - get over it! If you absolutely have to see/talk to this guy again, then by all means call - it's the 90s, women can do that.
"X"
Do not call this man! From what you wrote, I gather that you met this person and had a wonderful time on only one occasion. That is perfectly possible and okay, in fact, that's great - you had a fun night! But just because the guy is everything that you want (which I have to question) doesn't mean that you have to have a relationship with him. He didn't give you his UNLISTED phone number and he hasn't called you since. Stop rationalizing about his excuses and accept the facts as you know them. He could called you, getting your telephone number the same way that you got his, but he hasn't and it's been 3 weeks.
Get on with your life!
"Boomer"
Well, I'm not real clear as to how or where you met this guy, or what kind of measures you took to get the guy's phone number. From what you do say, it sounds like it was sort of a casual chance meeting and if you only gave him your phone number it doesn't sound like there was serious consideration taken as to a second meeting.