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Been married for 9 yrs and with him for 14 yrs. About 3 months ago was involved with another guy, wasn't looking for it, just happened. Now I'm trying to work on my marriage, but a lot of damaged has been done and my stress level is high. I still have feelings for the other guy, which doesn't help, ready to give up!
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Don't give up if you REALLY want your marriage! Continue to work on it - marriage is always a "work-in-progress"! It's not easy, but it is do-able if both partners try. Forget the other guy! It was a chemical reaction. Your feelings are not going to go away over night, but with time they will fade. Take care of yourself, don't get stressed, don't beat up on yourself. Just learn from your mistake so that you don't repeat it. Consider counseling, either with your husband or by yourself.
Counseling. If you really want to work things out with your husband, you
need immediate help - you both do. If you truly want a life with your
husband, then working on your marriage should be your number one priority
and unresolved feelings for some other man shouldn't even be an issue. If
you find your feelings the other man are a larger issue, then be up front
ASAP with your husband and give him the chance he deserves to bail and
start over where he's a priority.