Im torn. I have a great girlfriend that shares many of the same interest with me. We like spending time with each other and I think that she would possibly be a great person to live with for the rest of my life. She is kind, caring, attractive, intelligent, professional etc. I could compliment her for many things. Here is the problem. For some reason the girls I have dated in my past have always been short bleach blond bimbo types that have nice breast and lots of nice curves on there bodies. This seems to be the physical type that I am drawn to. Unfortunately person b is thin and has few curves. Unfortunately for both of us, this makes me much less sexually attracted to her. Im worried that this will cause problems for our relationship. Some good words of wisdom may help.
Oh, "X" was just too objective and helpful! My personal opinion would be for you to just GROW UP! If you can't get beyond shallow sexual attraction, leave this nice woman alone so that she can find a REAL man who will appreciate her!
It sounds like you may have accepted a typical stereotype of what's sexy.
Start by expanding your mind to include other features, physical
attributes, smells, etc. to your sensual vocabulary of what's attractive.
You may have found yourself drawn to your past girlfriends based solely on
their socially-encouraged appearances, but now you have the opportunity to
develop a relationship with someone based on more than curves and breasts.
Don't blow it. You need to redefine what's attractive by focusing on the
excitement you feel when you and your girlfriend are out, or the
stimulation you experience when the two of you are in deep conversation.
It may not hurt, if used in extreme moderation, and I'm not sure what
stage you and your girlfriend are in, but when you feel comfortable you
might confide this little fantasy of yours and perhaps suggest some
"dress-up." You may find she has a thing for men in uniforms.
Oh, "X" was just too objective and helpful! My personal opinion would be for you to just GROW UP! If you can't get beyond shallow sexual attraction, leave this nice woman alone so that she can find a REAL man who will appreciate her!"Boomer"
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