Dear Two Views,

My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for the last six years. I love him intensely, but I don't know if I can get over his tendencies to lie. In the past, he has cheated on me and lied to me about just about anything. We are trying to work it out, but I can't bring myself to trust him. We are in a long distance relationship and he came to visit me. A married friend of his called him three times while he was here. He was shocked when she called and he is telling me that he realizes that it seems bad, but he swears that nothing is going on. Okay, I realize that so far I sound like an incredibly dumb woman, but I feel bound to this person in ways I can't explain quickly. So now I want to know what I should do. We are planning on getting married eventually, and he is moving here to live with me in May. My first question is How can I tell if he is lying? My second question is, if he isn't lying, how can I build trust with him so that I am not paranoid all the time?


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