I have a problem with my now ex-boyfriend. During the last part of the relationship, things were going really badly. Actually, for the past few years things have been going badly, but the thing is that I can't seem to get over the good parts. The way he used to hold me and kiss me and how we always used to go places together. I love him so much. He really did become my best friend over time, but now when I try to call him, he's really REALLY mean to me. It's like he transformed into this monster and I just want my friend back who I love so much. I was really worried about him, so I finally found a way to contact him, and he was fine with it at first, but then the next day he just flipped out on me. I feel really terrible. He means so much to me, or at least he did. If I lost him as a friend as well as a boyfriend, then it will make me very sad. I tried to talk to him like a normal person, but he just cusses me out and tells me how he doesn't care anymore. What do you think is going on?
Why are you beating your head against a brick wall? Seems to me, your EX has made it clear that you are not part of his life. He may have serious "other" problems as evidenced by his mood swings, but that is not for you to "fix". Leave the man alone and get on with your life. You deserve respect and happiness. Good luck!
It doesn't sound like it was anything sudden that influenced your ex's
behavior - you'd said the relationship had been bad for several years. In
this case, I think we might be able to rule out any drastic changes or
traumas that would have caused a sudden change in his disposition. Unless
he's willing to talk, you may never know what caused the mood swing, but
you do know that you don't deserve to be on the receiving end of his
tirades. Step back, take a break and see if he comes to you when he's
ready. You've made admirable attempts to salvage a friendship, but don't
keep putting yourself out on the limb without any positive support or
Why are you beating your head against a brick wall? Seems to me, your EX has made it clear that you are not part of his life. He may have serious "other" problems as evidenced by his mood swings, but that is not for you to "fix".
Leave the man alone and get on with your life. You deserve respect and happiness. Good luck!"Boomer"