|
|
Iam currently with my boyfriend of 11 months & he is the greatest. My problem is that I saw my x boyfriend this weekend & now I am confused. I really missed him because I would always dream about him & wonder how he was doing & I finally got to see him. Well one thing led to another & you know what happened. I cant tell my boyfriend what happened because he will flip. I want to just forget about what happened & stay with my boyfriend but I'm confused. I still love my x & he is pressuring me to get back with him. What should I do? Thanks! Distressed
If you really like your current beau, then straighten yourself out and forget the old boyfriend - don't let the attractiveness of your ex's sudden attention confuse you.
Make your decision and stand tough.
"X"
Why did you break up with your "x" in the first place? Have things/he/you changed so that a future relationship with him could work this time? Are you sure? Or are you doomed to repeat a lesson that you should have already learned? These are hard questions which you need to address.
Whatever you decide about the "x", your current relationship is doomed anyway! The fact that you cheated on your boyfriend and now are lying to him (not telling him what happened is the same as lying!) indicates a lack of respect on your part and respect is a necessary part of any long-term successful relationship.
Sounds to me like your heart/hormones are with your "x", but your head knows that "x" is a bad choice and is siding with your current guy.
That won't work, you need to "get it all together" first before you can have ANY relationship.
"Boomer"
If you really want to forget your ex - then stay away from him! It's always a trap to fool around with an ex. It just adds confusion and someone can get hurt.