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I have been in steady relationship for two years. I love my partner. I miss him when I'm not with him but as soon as I see him again I don't feel as loving towards him as when I do when I am not with him. As soon as he is gone again I start think about him. It seems as though I enjoy missing him more than being with him. Can you tell me why this is and if I can do anything about it.
Thank you
My advice, if you truly know you love him and want to work through this issue, would be to hang in there and keep this whole concept in mind when planning your time together - do something different, maybe go to the zoo or a museum - try not to just "hang out" together so often because that may just instigate more disinterest in being together. In fact, it's not such a bad idea to plan sometimes not to be together - maybe you could plan to be busy sometimes in order to have some space.
Eventually you'll figure out how to balance things, so that things remain interesting and the natural process of a relationship maturing will continue its course.
"X"
Sounds to me like you enjoy the "idea" of romance and this relationship more than the "reality" of it. Absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder, because one tends to focus on the pleasurable aspects of a relationship to fill the void left in that absence. However, when one is with the other person, one is forced to interact with a human being and both the good and the bad must be dealt with.
After two years, you are probably reluctant to give up what has become an accepted part of your life, so you understandably would have conflicting emotions. I suggest that you spend a lot of time examining your feelings honestly and determine if it's really the guy that you love or the idea.
"Boomer"
Sounds familiar. Two years is some sort of milestone that couples reach when a lot of the excitement is over and two people start to feel really comfortable together. I know I still kinda miss all the hoopla about going out on a "date" and getting dressed up, or just getting excited about doing anything together. Most likely you're feeling a similar way - revelling in the warm feelings of love when he's away but the feeling kinda cools off when you're with him.